Bird Feeder

So I got a bird feeder, as suggested by the local medium, in order to attract birds to my yard, and "open the door" for messages from Bob.  Oh-kay. Here's what I get, everyday!  I know I can get some type of feeder that detracts squirrels, but this guy makes me laugh.

And yes, Mom & Dad, got my camera working!

Anniversaries & Such

Recently there was a short piece on our local news, a story about a man in a wheelchair who at a local grocery store trying to balance, on his lap, a cake, a bouquet of flowers and a bottle of champagne. When a younger man, behind him, helped this man in the wheelchair put his items on the counter to check out, he commented that it looked like the man was off to a celebration. And the man in the wheelchair told him it was his wedding anniversary, and that even though his wife had passed away five years ago, he still honored the day the way they always had, buying her flowers, a cake and toasting each other with champagne. Then the older man asked the younger man if he wanted to join his anniversary celebration, and he did, and widower not only honored his wife but made a new friend.

I love that story.

And I think it's strange that anyone would think it wrong to celebrate one's wedding anniversary just because their spouse is "in spirit" doesn't mean their spouse is no longer in this world and with us, just in another form. And a relationship can continue, after death, and to those who do not believe this, I highly recommend a few books:

The Afterlife Revolution
by Whitley & Anne Streiber
(and Anne co-wrote this book with her husband after her death)

Love Never Dies
by Dr. Jamie Turndorf
(a book about how she was able to continue her relationship with her husband, talk with him, be with him, in spirit, soul-to-soul, after his death)

Bridging Two Realms: Learn to Communicate With Your Loved Ones on the Other Side
by John Holland

And though Bob and I may not be married "in the eyes of the law", we are still married in spirit. Many of my widow friends feel the same, others do not, but we do not force our own opinions on others. And often we get together on a wedding anniversary, or a death anniversary, or a birthday of a spouse, we do this to offer emotional support but also to celebrate the life of the one we loved and still love.

I see nothing wrong with that.

Yesterday, I went "antiquing" with two friends, a tradition that Bob & I used to do on wedding anniversaries. It felt good to continue the tradition.  I think, I only cried once yesterday, later in the evening...

By the way, Bob is still with me and says, "Hello" to you all.  His voice never sounded better.

And now I can hear everyone thinking "Jeepers, she's gone off the deep end!" Yikes!

Anniversary

9-16-94

24 years ago today, 

Happy Anniversary sweetheart.